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Closer to Love

 Relationships are intricate and require guidance to thrive. Vex King outlines ten essential relationship rules in the book "Closer to Love":


1. Show small gestures of love to keep the relationship fresh.

2. Address conflicts with compassion and fairness, not to prove yourself right.

3. Nurture intimacy through emotional and intellectual connections.

4. Both partners must contribute to the relationship, including sharing chores.

5. Discuss difficult topics before they damage the relationship irreparably.

6. Avoid comparing your partner to others or past versions of themselves.

7. Plan together for the future and handle conflicts as a team.

8. Accept and embrace each other's individual differences.

9. Treat your partner as a true friend, with support, respect, and listening.

10. Value personal growth to enhance the relationship without losing yourself.


These rules can guide partners towards a successful and fulfilling relationship journey.



There are the four types of serious conflicts that can lead to breakups in a relationship, according to marriage specialist Dr. John Gottman:

1. Criticism: Your partner engages in offensive remarks targeted at your character.

2. Stonewalling: Your partner withdraws and shuts down communication, making it difficult to resolve issues effectively.

3. Defensiveness: Instead of taking responsibility, your partner places blame on you when conflicts arise.

4. Contempt: Your partner blatantly belittles you, showing disrespect and lacking support.

Addressing these conflict patterns is crucial for maintaining a healthy and successful relationship.

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